Hello my lovelies! We are fast approaching the end of 2020 and heading into 2021. I’m sure a lot of people can’t wait to say ‘good riddance’ to a truly weird and frightening year. I don’t think I need to get into specifics here, it’s a worldwide pandemic after all.
But enough about all that! I wanted to talk to you about the well-known saying ‘New Year, New You’. Ha. No, it isn’t. We are exactly the same at 11:59pm on the 31st of December as we are at 12:01am on the 1st of January. We do not simply ‘change’ overnight, but we grow. So I propose a refocus on growth this year.
I follow someone on Facebook called Laura Clery (this does link, wait for it). She posts videos about her life, her struggles, does little sketches, and is absolutely hilarious. I was also surprised to learn that both she and her husband have a long history of drug and alcohol illness but are now clean. They are quite an inspirational pair really. In addition to this, they have a young boy around my son’s age; I love seeing the similar stages of parenting! Anyway, before I digress anymore, I recently watched a video of them discussing something they have been doing daily for years. It’s probably something a few people do already, but this is where my inspiration came from. They go for a walk every morning and say three things each they are grateful for and then three things each they are grateful for but has yet to happen. This is all about positive affirmation, and what a great way to have that ‘power of positive thinking’ jazz. She believes it really works to both be thankful and imagine things going well.
Who else feels like they’re drowning in negativity and worry? I know I do. I’ve suffered with anxiety before, especially now, and I know I am by no means the only one. I suggested this ‘grateful mantra’ to my husband because I was focussing more and more on the negative, struggling to see anything positive or see what WAS within my control.
We have only done this a couple of times and I hope to make it a more regular thing for us as we move forward in 2021. We decided to do it over dinner as we sit as a family. This doesn’t mean you can’t have low moments, or you shouldn’t question ‘why’ when bad things happen or grieve if you are doing so. But doing this ‘grateful mantra’ (as I’m now calling it), is a way to help pull us out of that dark and see some light around us. Maybe some of the things we are grateful for were within our power to achieve. Equally, we may be grateful for things beyond our control. But, to me, maintaining positivity and positive visualisation is vital to my own mental health. Laura Clery certainly agrees!
It may go something like this:
What am I grateful for?
I am grateful for the food on my table.
I am grateful for my son.
I am grateful for my house.
What am I trying to visualise?
I am grateful my husband never tested positive for covid.
I am grateful for the successful release I had for book 2 in the Bloodline Alliance trilogy.
I am grateful my son is happy and feels included in our new family unit.
This is all about positive affirmation, and what a great way to have that ‘power of positive thinking’ jazz.
A conclusion then: Why is the well-known saying ‘New Year, New You’ a whole load of crock? Because we don’t change suddenly, we grow and develop new habits through our experiences. Why don’t we focus on making positive changes to help us grow as individuals?
What is 2021 to me?
Growth and courage. To find the positives and visualise my hopes and wants. I am under no illusion that 2021 is still going to be difficult and I am trying so very hard to come to terms with what I simply cannot control. I am lucky to have my family, a supportive husband and wonderful son to help me as we lean on each other. Vulnerability is ok and I will embrace it by acknowledging the light to get me through the dark.
No one can predict what 2021 will really look like but take control of what you can. Embrace the flaws, acknowledge the uncontrollable, and find your patches of light.
Power of visualisation and positive thinking here I come! Who’s with me?
Planning goals and outcomes for January (part of Q1) has really helped strengthen positive thinking!